By Victoria Lynn Hall
In my ongoing recovery from anxiety, one of the things I have learned and yet must constantly remind myself of is that worry doesn’t protect me; that the habit I acquired of imagining in painstaking detail every worst case scenario does more harm than good.
And so when I am tempted to freak out about something, I remind myself of the sage words of Tom Petty:
Most things I worry aboutCrawling Back To You, song by Tom Petty
Never happen anyway
In fact, when something bad does happen, it’s often something I couldn’t have predicted or specifically prepared myself for. Even so, I’ve managed to deal more or less effectively with the actual crises that have presented themselves in my life far better than I have with the imagined ones that have given me panic attacks.
These realizations seem so simple to me now but giving up my lifestyle as an anxious person was a long process that required a lot of work and an incredible amount of self awareness and still does.
The payoff of all that effort is that I can now say, to myself as well as anyone else, that I absolutely refuse to be bullied in to freaking out over something that hasn’t proven itself to be a real threat; nor do I feel that freaking out would be a helpful response if it were. Instead I will spend my energy where I find it to be useful; towards the people and situations that present themselves to me, and towards my own education, growth and development.
If someone wants to block me on social media, or accuse me of being insensitive, or stick some sort of label on me for not freaking out, I can cope with that. What I can’t and won’t cope with any longer is living my life in fear.
For more information on the infrastructure bills we talk about in this episode, Jesse recommends the American Prospects “Infrastructure Summer” coverage.
Jesse also mentioned Matt Bruenig creating a fake website for the Child Tax Credit that would be far easier to use than the current government one: https://www.peoplespolicyproject.org/projects/childtaxcredit/
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A Los Angeles native, Jesse Crall graduated from UCLA’s English Department before working as a copywriter, script reader and project manager for an engineering firm.
A self taught artist and creative entrepreneur, Victoria Lynn Hall lives in the Kansas City area with 4 spoiled cats. She believes in art and the magic of kindness.