By Victoria Lynn Hall
I tried my best to not make my recent video conversation with my friend Dr. Cindy Nye my own personal therapy session but it really was just as valuable as one and I believe it will be for anyone else who watches it.
One of the main realizations I came away with was just how much people struggle talking about their emotions and how much this contributes to miscommunication and misunderstandings in all of our relationships and makes it difficult to connect to each other in meaningful and sustained ways.
I was also reminded of my conversation with special education teacher Lori Evangelisto who teaches emotional intelligence to children and thinking about how different things may be now if emotional intelligence was something we all learned in school.
As it is now, I feel like we are a planet of people all wandering around with different skill levels when it comes to talking about or just coping with our feelings and it is sometimes as if each of us are speaking a separate language. No wonder we rely so much on things like music, art, literature and film to comfort us; things that express our common emotions more externally and universally without risking conflict with anyone.
But here’s the thing: we’re going to experience conflict anyway. If, rather than shy away from it or blame each other for it, we accept that each of us has a lot to learn when it comes to talking about our emotions and allow ourselves and each other to make mistakes – and make us feel uncomfortable in the process – we will also get to experience the understanding and connection that is possible on the other side of conflict.
All it would take is just the willingness to keep talking about and keep listening to what we feel.
I’m willing if you are.
Cindy’s Mental Health Moments on YouTube are an excellent resource for learning the skills we need to manage our emotions and take care of our mental health. She adds a new video every Monday.
Cindy did a wonderful Open Heart Meditation video for us with Lorie Michaels that is a great source of comfort and stress relief.
Speaking of Lorie Michaels, she has some great “Tapping” videos on her website that help with all kinds of things. If you aren’t familiar with Tapping or Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as EFT, she explains it and offers more resources here.
Also, as I also mentioned, you can find some meditations by Marianne Williamson on her site.
And, as promised, Cindy recommended the following resources for anyone who might be struggling right now:
A self taught artist and creative entrepreneur, Victoria Lynn Hall lives in the Kansas City area with 4 spoiled cats. She believes in art and the magic of kindness.